Lonliness or False Friendship, which is better!! weird & confusing question. Let me tell you a short story about myself to better understand this topic. During my childhood, I was one of those people who would not get to know lots of friends as I was a kind of introvent person. By time, that changed somehow and I started making friendships with lots of poeple, peers and colleagues thinking that i am on the right track. I was initially shocked with a friend attitude around 8 yrs ago when I was actually hurts psychologically & physically cuz of him. Still, i decided to be more optimistic and convinced myself that not all people are like him and that they're good people out there; it's just i need to find them. Clearly, I was mistaken in my approach for the 2nd time in row. I made one of the friendships with a close friends and thought of it as unbreakble one. Amazingly, It turned out that I was not correct as I was being alienated and isolated from him for no clear reason.
Situation itself was not as effective as my disappointment was as I lost my belief in the person. As for me at the present time, I would go for lonliness as an option for now to have some peace of mind. THEN, IF I DECIDE TO MAKE FRIENDSHIP, THAT WOULD BE A LONG PROCESS OF TESTS ADN CHOICES.....
Do you agree that Lonliness is the right option in this world of no friendship and uncertainity. Please share your thouhgt and ideas with me.... May Be one of you have an answer for my questions!!!!!!!
4 comments:
Fareed,
This is amazing post. Well let me start with NO, no loneliness. This is not an option, loneliness kills. It really kills.
I have been there too, hurt by many close friends. But I came up with this theory, do you know Adel Emam in El Tagreba El Danemarkia movie? When he used to sit with his kids and tell them “kol mar7ala leha tawgohatha we benietha el asasia elli bet2om 3aliha” he was kidding, but this is so true.
I believe we are like computers (somehow) so when long time pass, you need to organize your folders, check for viruses (toxic friends that you really need to get rid of) and clean your desktop, put all unused files in one folders (these are friends who were ones brothers and sisters but no you never hear from them) don’t delete them, it was just a phase in your life when they were brothers and sisters but now they are just (precious memories) you need to keep them safe, they are unused but still precious and maybe you will need the hand of one of them further on to help you out or even an ear to listen to them when the world closes all its doors in front of you.
About the dear person you were talking about and you thought that your relation with him is unbreakable, those dear people are like “teeth” it is really hard to get rid of them, we need to keep them and fight to keep them.
7ata law saweso, we need to go through many painful operations (7ashow ba2a we7agat keda) leghayt ma khalas mayb2ash feh 7al gher enohom yetkhel3o we da bas lama yewsalo le mar7alet (being toxic) and hurting you.
Fareed, I would say No to loneliness but also NO to rush in a relation. In my lonely time I will just involve more with groups of people, though I have no “real” friend in these groups but they will be like “fast food” to me
Take Care Dear Friend
MariannE
You're definitely right in your opinion. Still don't you think that having time even with those who are not real close friends of you might not be the bes time you have as there will be some expectancy on your side from being hurt by them or even talking in a language that do not know ( I mean you talk about topics and they talk about other irrelated stuff
Yes Fareed,
You actually got me there. It made things even worse, when I am involved with people who are not listening and cannot share my pain. But still, consider them as pain killer instead of struggling alone.
hi fareed
i'd support your opinion. yes, i think lonliness is better than a bad someone. at least you wont get hurt. and you wont waste your time and energy with the wrong person.
lonliness was never my choice, but over time, i find it better than being with the worng person.
not sure how long one can bear lonliness, but there is always the hope of meeting good people.
this is the hand of allah.
dont worry, along the way, there will come good friends. :))))
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